Ich habe diese Geschichte auf der Facebook-Seite von Beate Bock gelesen (https://www.facebook.com/beatebock.de/posts/510236755663100 ) und – obwohl sie bei der TU Berlin als so genannter „Hoax“ (eine Art Internet-Kettenbrief) aufgelistet ist – empfinde ich die Botschaft dieser Zeilen als so wirkungsvoll und positiv, dass ich die Geschichte hier trotzdem mit euch teilen möchte:
Eines Tages bat eine Lehrerin ihre Schüler, die Namen aller anderen Schüler der Klasse auf ein Blatt Papier zu schreiben und ein wenig Platz neben den Namen zu lassen. Dann sagte sie zu den Schülern, sie sollten überlegen, was das Netteste ist, das sie über jeden ihrer Klassenkameraden sagen können und das sollten sie neben die Namen schreiben. Es dauerte die ganze Stunde, bis jeder fertig war und bevor sie den Klassenraum verließen, gaben sie Ihre Blätter der Lehrerin. Am Wochenende schrieb die Lehrerin jeden Schülernamen auf ein Blatt Papier und daneben die Liste der netten Bemerkungen, die ihre Mitschüler über den Einzelnen aufgeschrieben hatten. Am Montag gab sie jedem Schüler seine oder ihre Liste. Schon nach kurzer Zeit lächelten alle. „Wirklich?“, hörte man flüstern. „Ich wusste gar nicht, dass ich irgendjemandem was bedeute!“ und „Ich wusste nicht, dass mich andere so mögen“, waren die Kommentare.
Niemand erwähnte danach die Listen wieder. Die Lehrerin wusste nicht, ob die Schüler sie untereinander oder mit ihren Eltern diskutiert hatten, aber das machte nichts aus. Die Übung hatte ihren Zweck erfüllt. Die Schüler waren glücklich mit sich und mit den anderen.
Einige Jahre später war einer der Schüler gestorben und die Lehrerin ging zum Begräbnis dieses Schülers. Die Kirche war überfüllt mit vielen Freunden. Einer nach dem anderen, der den jungen Mann geliebt oder gekannt hatte, ging am Sarg vorbei und erwies ihm die letzte Ehre. Die Lehrerin ging als letzte und betete vor dem Sarg. Als sie dort stand, sagte einer der Anwesenden, die den Sarg trugen, zu ihr: „Waren Sie Marks Mathelehrerin?“ Sie nickte: „Ja“. Dann sagte er: „Mark hat sehr oft von Ihnen gesprochen.“ Nach dem Begräbnis waren die meisten von Marks früheren Schulfreunden versammelt. Marks Eltern waren auch da und sie warteten offenbar sehnsüchtig darauf, mit der Lehrerin zu sprechen. „Wir wollen Ihnen etwas zeigen“, sagte der Vater und zog eine Geldbörse aus seiner Tasche. „Das wurde gefunden, als Mark verunglückt ist. Wir dachten, Sie würden es erkennen.“ Aus der Geldbörse zog er ein stark abgenutztes Blatt, das offensichtlich zusammengeklebt, viele Male gefaltet und auseinander gefaltet worden war. Die Lehrerin wusste ohne hinzusehen, dass dies eines der Blätter war, auf denen die netten Dinge standen, die seine Klassenkameraden über Mark geschrieben hatten.
„Wir möchten Ihnen so sehr dafür danken, dass Sie das gemacht haben“, sagte Marks Mutter. „Wie Sie sehen können, hat Mark das sehr geschätzt.“ Alle früheren Schüler versammelten sich um die Lehrerin. Charlie lächelte ein bisschen und sagte: „Ich habe meine Liste auch noch. Sie ist in der obersten Schublade in meinem Schreibtisch“. Die Frau von Heinz sagte: „Heinz bat mich, die Liste in unser Hochzeitsalbum zu kleben.“
„Ich habe meine auch noch“, sagte Monika. „Sie ist in meinem Tagebuch.“ Dann griff Irene, eine andere Mitschülerin, in ihren Taschenkalender und zeigte ihre abgegriffene und ausgefranste Liste den anderen. „Ich trage sie immer bei mir“, sagte Irene und meinte dann: „Ich glaube, wir haben alle die Listen aufbewahrt.“ Die Lehrerin war so gerührt, dass sie sich setzen musste und weinte. Sie weinte um Mark und für alle seine Freunde, die ihn nie mehr sehen würden.
Soweit die Geschichte von Schwester Helen Mrosla.
Es folgt der später angehängte Kettenbrief, der in den Mails nicht erkennbar abgetrennt ist.
Im Zusammenleben mit unseren Mitmenschen vergessen wir oft, dass jedes Leben eines Tages endet und dass wir nicht wissen, wann dieser Tag sein wird. Deshalb sollte man den Menschen, die man liebt und um die man sich sorgt, sagen, dass sie etwas Besonderes und Wichtiges sind. Sag es ihnen, bevor es zu spät ist. Du kannst es auch tun, indem Du diese Nachricht weiterleitest. Wenn Du dies nicht tust, wirst Du eine wunderbare Gelegenheit verpasst haben, etwas Nettes und Schönes zu tun.
Wenn Du Diese Mail bekommen hast, dann deshalb, weil sich jemand um Dich sorgt und es bedeutet, dass es zumindest einen Menschen gibt, dem Du etwas bedeutest. Denk daran, Du erntest, was Du säst. Was man in das Leben der anderen einbringt, kommt auch ins eigene Leben zurück. Dieser Tag soll ein gesegneter Tag sein und GENAU SO ETWAS BESONDERES WIE DU ES BIST!!!
Die Quelle dieser Geschichte (die im übrigen wahr ist), ist hier zu finden: http://www.educationworld.com/a_lesson/lesson/lesson012.shtml
Ich habe sie hier im Englischen Original noch einmal kopiert:
This story is sure to inspire beleaguered educators everywhere! In addition, you might find an idea for a teaching activity that is sure to build your students‘ self-esteem—and provide lasting memories.
This story by Helen P. Mrosla first appeared in Proteus: A Journal of Ideas, a journal published by the Office of Public Relations/Publications of Shippensburg University, Shippensburg, Pennsylvania. We thank theUniversity and Marcia Gibbs, Editor, for permission to reprint the article here.
After teaching for thirty-five years and encountering numerous students from all walks of life, I know now that I’ll never have another Mark Eklund in any of my classes. Mark was the „one in a million“ kind of student who was very neat in appearance, had that „happy to be alive“ attitude, and who was mischievous in such a delightful way. He was in my first third-grade class when I was teaching in a wonderful town in western Minnesota. That was the year I had thirty-four students in the classroom; that was the year that I made some distinct changes in my methods of teaching as well as in the way I approached students. All of the students were the usual eager-to-learn type; all of them were very dear to me. No student stood out as much as Mark Eklund.
Mark talked incessantly. I had to remind him again and again of the classroom rule that talking without permission was not acceptable. What impressed me so much was his sincere response every time I had to correct him for misbehaving—„Thank you for correcting me, Sister!“ I didn’t know what to make of it the first time I heard it but before long I became accustomed to hearing it many times throughout the day.
One day my patience was growing quite thin when Mark talked once too often, and that was when I made the mistake most novice teachers make. Mark was talking to Chuck who sat behind him. I looked at Mark and said, „Mark, if you say one more word, I am going to tape your mouth shut!“ It wasn’t ten seconds later when Chuck blurted out „Mark is talking again.“ I hadn’t asked any of the students to help me watch Mark, but since Chuck made the announcement so the entire class could hear it, I had to respond. The class reminded me that I had said I would put tape on Mark’s mouth if he talked again. That was my mistake. I had stated the type of punishment in front of the class so now I had to act on it.
I remember the scene as clearly as if it had occurred this morning. I walked to my desk, very deliberately opened the drawer and took out a roll of masking tape. Without saying a word, I walked over to Mark’s desk. He sat in the third-last desk in the second row by the cloakroom. I proceeded to tear off two pieces of tape. The only way I could make it stick was by putting the tape on so that it looked as if Mark had a big X over his mouth. Again without saying a word, I turned and walked to the front of the room. I picked up the reading book and glanced at Mark to see how he was doing. At that moment he winked at me. That did it! I melted and started laughing. The entire class cheered as I walked back to Mark’s desk, removed the tape, and shrugged my shoulders. His first words were, „Thank you for correcting me.“ This time I had to turn quickly so Mark would not see the tears in my eyes.
At the end of the year I was asked to teach junior-high math and be in charge of the ninth-grade homeroom. The years flew by and before I knew it, Mark was in my classroom again. He hadn’t changed. He was more handsome than ever but just as polite as he always was. His work was good, always in on time, and as neat as one could expect from any boy that age. Since he had to listen carefully to my instruction in the „new math, “ he did not talk as much in class as he did in third grade. As he left the classroom each day, he still made it a point to walk past my desk, smile and say, „Good night, Sister. Thank you for teaching me.“
I can’t recall what happened one particular rainy day, but I do know that things just didn’t feel right in the math class. It was Friday; we had worked hard on a new concept all week; but that day I felt that the class just wasn’t with me. Inwardly I was exasperated but outwardly I smiled sweetly and told the class to close their books and take out two clean sheets of paper. I asked them to put their name at the top as usual, then list the names of the other students in the room, leaving a space between each name. After that was accomplished, I told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. No one questioned the assignment. Perhaps too they were feeling more antagonism than love in the classroom at that particular moment. It took the remainder of the class period to finish writing about their classmates but by now I was a seasoned teacher who could easily make adjustments in lesson planning. As the students left the room, each one handed me the two sheets of paper. Mark and Chuck handed me their papers at the same time. Chuck smiled; Mark said, „Thank you for teaching me, Sister. Have a good weekend.“
As soon as I could, I got started on my assignment. I decided to write the name of each student on the top of a paper, then go through the twenty-eight papers and write down what each student had said about the individual. (I didn’t have my own typewriter so it took me almost all day Saturday to complete the task.) At the very bottom I wrote what I thought was the most outstanding characteristic of the individual. On Monday I taught the class as usual, let them get started on their homework, and then gave each student the paper with the complimentary remarks on it. Before long I saw smiles on the faces of the students and heard whispered remarks of surprise such as, „Really?“ „I never knew that meant anything to anyone!“ „I didn’t know others liked me so much!“
No one ever said anything about the exercise after that class period. I never knew if they discussed it with one another after class or if they mentioned it to their parents. It didn’t matter. The exercise accomplished what I had hoped it would—the students were happy with themselves and one another again.
That group of students moved on. Since our school did not go beyond junior high school, the students transferred to the local high school after ninth grade. It was at that time I was assigned to teach high-school math in an inner city school in St. Paul. My efforts now were spent on my new students.
In August 1970, the mother of one of my former students gave me an all-expenses-paid trip to the Bahamas. I remember that so clearly because my parents met me at the Minneapolis-St. Paul International Airport when I returned. I was planning to spend a few days with them before I returned to my teaching in the inner city. As we were driving out of the airport area, Mother asked the usual questions about the trip, the weather, my experiences in general. There was a slight lull in the conversation, and I noticed that Mother gave Dad a sideways glance and simply said „Dad?“ Dad cleared his throat as he usually did before saying something important. „Eklunds called from Morris last night.“ „Really?“ I said. „I haven’t heard from them in several years! I wonder how Mark is.“ Then, as only my Dad could do it, he responded rather quietly, „Mark was killed in Vietnam. The funeral is tomorrow and his parents would like it if you could attend the funeral.“ I am sure I answered something to the effect that it would be nice if the three of us could attend the funeral. To this day I can still point to the exact spot on I-494 where Dad told me about Mark’s death.
The next morning, Mother, Dad, and I started out early knowing that it would take us at least two hours to drive to Morris. We had hoped to get to the funeral parlor before mass so we could view the body and greet Jim and Pat Eklund before the funeral services. Even though we had to drive slowly due to heavy fog, we arrived at the funeral parlor in plenty of time.
I had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before so I was not prepared to see Mark almost „stuffed“ into the coffin which was covered with a glass. He looked so handsome, so mature; he even had a neat mustache. The only thing I could think of or wanted to say at that moment was „Mark, I would give all the masking tape in the world if only you could talk to me.“ I was going through an agony of my own right then. If Mark could have talked to me at that moment, he might have said that he had completely forgotten about the incident. I hadn’t forgotten and I know that I never will.
The Mass was beautiful as I knew it would be. The church was packed with Mark’s friends of all ages. I don’t remember many of the particulars of the service itself other than the fact that Chuck’s sister sang „Battle Hymn of the Republic.“ That was powerful!
Why does it rain on the day of a funeral? It was difficult enough at the graveside, and the rain didn’t help in any way. The pastor said the usual prayers; one of the military personnel played Taps; one by one those who loved Mark took a last walk by the closed coffin, blessed it with holy water, and then went to their cars and on to Chuck’s huge farmhouse for lunch. I recall how sensitive Dad was at the graveside. He said he and Mother would walk to the car and wait for me there. „Just take your time, “ he said.
I was the last one to bless the coffin. As I stood there in the rain, one of the soldiers who had acted as a pallbearer came up to me. „You were Mark’s math teacher, weren’t you?“ he asked. I nodded as I continued to stare at the coffin. „Mark talked about you a lot.“ Just then someone called to the soldier to go to the car with the other military personnel. Before he left he asked if I intended to talk to Mark’s parents before I left. I said I wouldn’t dream of leaving without having a visit with them. „Good, “ he said. „Ask them about Mark’s personal effects.“
Most of Mark’s former classmates were at the farm when we arrived there for lunch. Marks’s mother and dad were obviously waiting for me. „We want to show you something, “ Mark’s dad said. He took a billfold out of his pocket. „They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.“ He carefully removed and opened up two worn pieces of notebook paper which had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. I knew without looking at the writing that the papers were the ones on which I had listed all of the good things each of his classmates had said about Mark. „Thank you so much for doing that, “ Mark’s mother said. „As you can see, Mark treasured it.“
Marks’s classmates started to gather around us. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, „I still have my list. It’s in the top drawer of my desk at home.“ Marilyn looked at him and said, „I have mine too. It’s in my diary.“ Chuck’s wife spoke up and said, „Really? Chuck made me put his in our wedding album.“ Jim, who was always the shyest boy in class, looked around at the group, put his hand in his back pocket, took out his billfold and showed his list to the group. It too was worn and terribly frazzled at the edges. „I carry this with me at all times, “ he said without batting an eyelash. „I think everyone saved theirs.“ That was when I finally sat down and cried. I cried for Mark, for all of his friends who were here now, and I cried for myself knowing that I would never see Mark again.
Now as thousands and thousands visit the Vietnam Memorial each year, I hope they will know that „MARK EKLUND“ is not just another name on the wall. He gave so much to all of us!
„Good night, Mark. Thank you for letting me teach you!“
Helen P. Mrosla, a member of the Franciscan Sisters of Little Falls, Minnesota, is an assistant professor in the School of Education at Seattle University in Washington. She has taught at the elementary and junior high levels before teaching at the collegiate level. She earned a B.A. from the College of Saint Catherine in St. Paul, a M.Ed. from Stephen F. Austin State University in Texas, and a Ph.D. from the University of North Texas in Denton. The recipient of five research grants from the National Science Foundation, Mrosla is interested in teaching mathematics successfully to slow learners or those who have a mental block about mathematics. An active presenter on the local, regional, state, national and international levels, her articles have appeared in the Journal of Instructional Psychology and Progressio. [Proteus, Spring 1991.]
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